Coaching and Counselling Services
Dedicated to assisting individuals, families, and couples in finding solutions
My expertise does not lie in helping you to learn more coping skills or how to have more life balance. My expertise lies in helping you to discover the root cause of things that are blocking you from being your best
by helping you identify scripts of the past and learning to make the connection between past events and current behaviours. Once we make this connection, I help you along your new journey of writing a new script. When you have this new script, there is no need for coping mechanisms and self-help books because now you are connecting with your true self again.
Coaching is a form of learning where we will work to generate new thinking, create learning, self-development, and promote focused action in ways that benefit you, it’s about generating shifts, moving forward and creating change.
“Clients use counselling to help them resolve emotional, psychological and relationship issues, and to improve their overall well-being and mental health.”
Ross Hyslop PG counsellor MBACP
My name is Ross Hyslop, I began my journey of personal recovery in 1993, which lead me to a career as a counsellor, I qualified in 2008 and am a member of the British Association of psychotherapists.
I’d Love to Help
I Have Experience With…
In many ways we are in a pandemic of mental health.
The positive side of that is mental health is becoming more recognised, more people feel free to speak about it , and more assistance than ever before is available.
Society takes a biological, individualized approach to mental health care in the treatment of many issues, including anxiety, depression, and addiction.
I work from a holistic approach where we see the mind and body not as separate.
Counselling will help you make the connection between physical and mental ailments, and the influence of our surrounding environment can be effecting your emotional well being.
I would like to encourage you to think on trauma as a wound, think of a time when you cut yourself or fell with force, with a cut, the healing would involve scar tissue forming.
Larger the cut, larger the injury, larger the scar, longer the healing, and perhaps damage to nerve endings so you wouldn’t feel, and it would be much less flexible than your normal tissue.
Trauma is when there is a loss of feeling and rigidity in responding to the world. This is a response to a wound.
I can be difficult even painful attempting to connect with others and your environment. The isolation of the trauma creates a fear reaction.
You may not be aware of it but your whole life becomes regulated by fear and pain.
And then to survive we develop soothing strategies, which can be dangerous and become addictive.
Addiction not my favourite title or word.
For me, addiction and word addict is very derogatory, and tend to steer away from using it.
Let us look not why the addiction, but rather what is the pain.
The substance abuse or behavioural challenges is the symptom, lets search for the cause.
For me the cause tends always to be rooted in childhood trauma, It may not have been a physical trauma or a devastating natural disaster.
Trauma can be formed more subtly in the infants developing brain.
I like to think of trauma, internal suffering and psychological pain as the cause, which is hungry to feel Satiated, one clutches for stimulation to gravitate away from the hurt.
By learning to work with the cause rather than the symptom one can become responsible to manage this negative wound in far more healthy ways.
I became aware of my own addiction to substances in 1993 and made effective changes in eradicating it from my life.
I have been sober from alcohol since 2006 and work my recovery of co-dependency.
For all challenges, I have adopted many healthy strategies and utilised guidance from the 12 step process.
GRIEF / LOSS
Do you feel you are stuck in grief? Struggling to move on?
This can be normal for many through the loss of a loved, or the loss experienced learning of a terminal illness.
To learn that grief is an antidote to trauma—Grief is a healthy outlet for what we’re feeling.
While trauma leaves us stuck in our sadness, grief abates and eventually allows us to tap into an innate sense of action.
Grief, shouldn’t be confused with pain, suffering, or fear.
As your therapists, I will help you to keep trauma in check so as to identify what stage of grief you are in then work through the several stages.
Healing is a highly subversive act in our culture. My role is to help you make the connections, allow yourself to move on and work with change.
Let us take depression very seriously, be that upon ourselves and in others.
If in ourselves, let us learn to be vulnerable and learn of our pain, to speak openly about it.
Let us not be limited by our stiff upper lip, big boys don’t cry conditioning, which has been so prevalent in our society.
If we are given insight to it within another, let us find the patience and compassion to hear that pain, to invite it to exist without judgment, without easy answers, without blame.
Let us learn together how you can be a more effective listener if you live with someone with depression.
My Approach & Philosophy
Coaching should pave a way for new insight, new perspective. Counselling should help you build skills. Research shows that 8–12 weeks of the consistent week to week counselling will be necessary for most good, solid growth.
The regular maintenance check-ups may be necessary to continue that growth and stay steadfast in your new skills.
- Find clarity and make tough decisions in your life so you can get unstuck and move forward
- Develop better habits so that you have more structure and discipline in your life
- Set and achieve goals so you will have a better sense of achievement and know that your life is moving in the right direction
- Get organized and manage your time more effectively so you can get better results from your day and be held accountable
- Change your mindset and put an end to self-doubt so that you think more positively about your life
- Make more money so you can live a lifestyle that you deserve
- Build your self-confidence so you stop settling for less than you deserve and go after what you want in life
- Develop better relationships and friendships that leave you feeling fulfilled
- Get self-motivated and stop procrastinating so you take action in life and be more productive
- Discover your life purpose and passion so you have a sense of meaning
- Overcome depression and anxiety so you can experience more inner peace and joy
- Find your dream job or improve your current career so you wake up each day excited to go to work
- Learn to believe in yourself so you never give up and keep going when things get tough